I rarely go into rant mode, at least not when I am writing. I save my rants for wine-fueled evenings with friends and family. Therefore, I can wake up the next morning, remember the extreme sentiments I shared, and question why I indeed have friends at all.
I try my damnedest to have a positive outlook; I’m not saying I’m a ray of sunshine, (Maury Povich would determine, that is a lie), but I work hard at spreading light and love, where and how I can. I do my best to see a situation for what it is. And try to remember each person I have the pleasure of coming into contact with, is doing their best on this Earth. In spite of mistakes or what they have been given to work with.
I’m certainly not perfect, not even close; but maybe it’s because I have fucked up so many times I realize how harsh a judgment is. Whatever it is, whether I was born to parents who believe in fairness or lessons I have learned in this life, I work hard every damn day, striving not to judge anyone too harshly.
I understand it’s a Human characteristic. It’s in our nature to view something and process what we believe it to be, how we perceive it. The issue isn’t perception as much as it’s the ignorance which follows.
With that said, we as a society have certain standards on which we base our judgments. And I get it. We can’t stop judging on a whole, where would it leave us, probably in Anarchy. Thus to be CLEAR, I am not talking about the judgment of the Law or our court systems. I’m purely speaking of ignorance and what it’s doing to our society, my children.
At this point, I could ask the rhetorical question, why can’t we all just get along? But, that will get us nowhere. Instead, let’s talk about the shallow and trivial ideologies on which people base their judgments and what we are teaching our children. It’s HATE, by the way, that’s what our children are learning when people install shallow, uneducated viewpoints into the world.
I will continue to do my best to live and let live, to judge as little as possible and remember life is hard enough without the judgment of others.
Here are a few things I will never judge anyone for, ever.
Who with or how someone has sex. It is none of my damn business if two consenting adults are doing nasty things to each other in the bedroom. I don’t care if you use random fruits and vegetables to get off, I mean, be safe ( I’ve heard some horror stories involving bananas, just sayin’ ), but have fun. And if two dudes, three girls, and a transgender are what you are into, buckle up and orgasm until your heart is content. Not my business.
The part of a person’s body they use to urinate. Everyone is up in arms over this transgender bathroom bullshit. If you have to pee through a tube attached to your arm, a penis or vagina, I am more than willing to let you use ‘my’ bathroom stall. I don’t care who you are; I know what it’s like to try to hold my bladder, I’ve had two babies and am thrilled there are public toilets at all. Pee from whatever part of your body allows it and use whatever restroom is available to you; I don’t want anyone pissing their pants because they pee differently from me.
How to raise your children. Okay, because people are such judgemental assholes I will preface this with a disclaimer. OF COURSE, WE NEED TO BE AWARE OF THE HEALTH AND SAFTEY OF CHILDREN. But, if you don’t want to breastfeed your child, or get in your helicopter and watch their every move, I don’t care. My business is to do the best I can parenting my kids, and I am certainly not an expert, is anyone? Really? Of course, I want the best for each child on this planet; we can achieve that by teaching them empathy, how to judge less and love more.
Who you love. Love is an uncontrollable emotion; it’s as hard to force yourself to love someone as it is to try to stop loving a person. Fall in love, be mindful of course but fall in love with the person that lights your heart on fire. Love is too rare a thing to ignore.
Don’t get me wrong; there are ethical standards in which all of us need to do our best to abide by, but let’s give our fellow humans a break. Everyone on this planet is fighting demons none of us know a thing about. Isn’t it hard enough to just be a human let alone be judged daily by our peers for things we can’t control?
I’m confused, bewildered and I’m begging you. What’s the point? Where does judgment get us? I can’t wrap my head around the need to convince people, a human being they don’t understand is a piece of shit. I don’t know one person who hasn’t been challenged one way or another in their life, why would anyone want to add to anther human’s heartache?
Can we please just stop!?