The training Bra looks nothing like it did when I was a girl. Have you seen these things? I hadn’t, not until the moment my daughter, and I arrived at Walmart’s Teen Bra section. WTF, I couldn’t believe my eyes. My daughter wanted a bra, and all of them were sexy! Not just lacy and pretty, insanely sexy. Sequins and stiletto’s sexy.
Now let’s be completely honest here: No one wants their tween in a sexy anything! I was so frustrated that there was even a market for it, and it wasn’t as if there were only a few. There were more sexy bra’s than not.
As we looked through the racks, I noticed that there were some sports training bras, we picked those. But I discovered myself wondering just how to explain to her that I thought these other bras were inappropriate for a girl her age, when she could so clearly see them tagged ages 10-12. Luckily, my little one was happy with the sports bra, she preferred it. Although it didn’t take the conversation off the table. A conversation, I don’t believe needed to be there in the first place.
Show your daughter you accept your own personal body as it is, along with all its flaws. Constantly obsessing regarding your own weight and appearance—or hers—sends a bad message, that she is only valuable if she is thin and pretty. Focus instead on living a fit and healthy lifestyle, and model healthy and balanced eating choices rather than nagging her to lay off the soda and chips. Dress in professional, comfortable or casual style instead of spending hours obsessing over make-up or shoehorning yourself into tight garments designed to make you appear “sexy.” As a mother, you are the very first and most significant influence on your own daughter’s behaviour as well as her body image.
I love my soon-to-be woman, and I want her to know that she does not have to rush it. She is a strong, smart, funny, and a loving girl. I will be sure to try my best, to follow my own advice.
Stop Selling Sex to my Daughter or anyone’s daughter for that matter!