Women: fickle, emotional, feisty, bitchy, bubbly, pushy, sassy, headstrong, hormonal, high-strung, ditzy, catty.
These are just some of the words that are only used to describe women. Good or bad they are out there, and quite honestly if we as women want them gone, we have to work at it and not just complain about it. Most importantly we have to stop using them to describe one another.
If you think about it being described as a bitch is pretty rude. The word, derived from the meaning of a female dog, is one of my least favourite. Sometimes I even find myself using this word to describe my actions. Apologizing to my significant other for being bitchy, which he accepts as if it’s no problem. Even though I am certain, I was not barking at the paper boy or pissing on the carpet.
It amazes me how often I have been or have heard other women described as these words. Not only that but how inundated women, in general, have advice on how-to-be-a-good-woman shoved in our face.
How to Date a Woman
Trust me when I say I believe in freedom of speech and that each person has a right to their opinion.
So here is mine. The article starts off exclaiming that Women are notorious for not knowing what they want. Are we? I am not sure, ( do you see my play on words there ) but seriously. I don’t believe it is just women that don’t know what they want; this trait seems to be a bit more humanistic than gender based. I could argue that Men seem just as confusing when it comes to dating.
An excerpt from the article reads:
One popular female dating coach tells men to fill in any awkward silences by delivering a compliment. Now come on; any experienced player knows to give compliments sparingly, if at all. You can’t inflate their heads with insincere compliments just because you ran out of things to say. They have to earn the compliments.
Signs You are With The Guy You Should Marry
Sometimes the worst advice given to women is from women. Whether it be from cheesy dating sites or Cosmo. My problem with this shit is there is no such thing as Prince Charming, and the sooner my daughter knows that, the better. As a girl, I believed that I was going to grow up, meet the man of my dreams and be swept off my feet.
I did meet the man of my dreams, but there was certainly no sweeping off of any feet.
Am I in love? Hell yeah. Is it hard? Fuck yeah!
There is no perfect relationship, only what is perfect for the people in it.
Promoting the perfect man, or relationship only hurts little girls and gives them an ideology of how a perfect relationship should work. In this Article, 18 Signs You’re With the Man You Should Marry, we are feeding our young Women with the same Cinderella bullshit. Don’t get me wrong, I believe in chivalrous acts but life isn’t like that all the time, and it certainly isn’t the only reason you should marry a man or Woman for that matter.
Even after years together he still does little chivalrous things for you.Like open doors for you, or carry you to your doorstep when your feet hurt after wearing high heels all day and you just can’t bear to walk one more block.
College Women: Stop Getting Drunk
Can I please scream!
This, is just over the top, instead of the headline reading, College Men Stop Raping Girls, it reads College Women: Stop Getting Drunk. Are you Fucking kidding me? #RapeCultureIsWhen became a trending hashtag recently, and I believe it is due to this type of ideology. Telling Women to not get drunk isn’t terrible advice. Telling them to stop, so they don’t get Raped is fucked!
This article found at Slate.com tackles a serious issue, but I believe ( and yes again, my opinion ) in all the wrong ways.
In an excerpt from the Article College Women: Stop Getting Drunk we are told
Let’s be totally clear: Perpetrators are the ones responsible for committing their crimes, and they should be brought to justice. But we are failing to let women know that when they render themselves defenseless, terrible things can be done to them. Young women are getting a distorted message that their right to match men drink for drink is a feminist issue. The real feminist message should be that when you lose the ability to be responsible for yourself, you drastically increase the chances that you will attract the kinds of people who, shall we say, don’t have your best interest at heart. That’s not blaming the victim; that’s trying to prevent more victims.
Dumb It Down
Just so you know that I am not (always) taking myself too seriously, I found this particular piece of advice quite funny, actually. It comes from a book written in 1959, not that long ago if you think about how far we have come ladies.
The Title of the Book: She-Manners: The Teen Girl’s Book of Etiquette, 1959, by Robert H. Loeb Jr. has some extremely old school ideas.
“To make him feel important, you have to forget your desires for importance. Compliment him on his physical prowess, his mental acumen, his good looks, his virility. The worst mistake a girl can make is to make a man feel intellectually inferior or inadequate as a male. We men need a lot of reassurances. So lay it on thick but subtly. Stroke his ego. Let him think he’s king much of the time. He will love you for it, and, you know, it will make you feel extremely feminine.”
How Not to Be a Bitch – Ten Easy Steps
Don’t we all need to know how not to be a bitch? Of course, we do and thank you for your kind advice Return of Queens, we do appreciate it! Please note the verbal irony.
This website’s tagline reads Raising awareness of Anti feminism. Cool, you are entitled to your opinion. But please be aware that these so-called 10 Easy steps are wasted on me.
The article posted How not to be a Bitch – Ten Easy Steps has some good advice regarding not engaging in a fight or argument, but I believe it is unfair that is geared just towards Women. Most of these steps could be used whether you are a man or woman. Maybe the article’s headline could have been How not to start an Argument with your Partner – 10 Easy steps.
Step 3 Reads:
Be mindful of your facial expressions
I don’t know any man who wants to come home to THAT!