Written by: Charmin’ Carmen
If you’re anything like us, Halloween can be pretty traumatic. Not only is your child freaking the fuck out, but even the thought of attempting a social activity like trick-or-treating can cause heart palpitations and you haven’t even stepped outside the door yet.
Ryder is anti-Halloween, and not because he doesn’t have a clue what’s going on, but because he also can’t eat chocolate. The turquoise pumpkin movement struck a chord with me, but the reality is that it’s not universally adopted yet and the chances of us finding a plethora of families participating for Ryder to take advantage of are slim to none. We tried the mall-tour one year and I spent 45 minutes hanging up sweaters and dress-pants while encouraging Ryder to stop pulling them down. We tried. We failed. But we’re still going to give it a go again this October 31st.
Costumes can be a major challenge, and while stuffing Ryder into a stuffed animal costume with a hood sounds like the ideal situation in the zero degree weather, he lasted 35 seconds in one last year and we ended up in Batman pajamas and a sombrero. I carried the sombrero.
The key is simplicity. We all know that it’s a miracle when our autistic kids keep their socks on for longer than 45 seconds (and we take pictures because it’s awesome) and that if any fabric feels ‘funny’ on their skin, their going naked… so knowing your child and their limitations (and sticking to them) is critical when choosing a costume.
- The non-costume
I’m not kidding. This is actually perfect.
- The Superhero Pajamas
It worked for us. Complete the look with a pair of thick socks and rubber boots and your ASD child will just think you’re out for a walk.
- The “I dressed myself” costume
Nothing says awesome like letting your child pick out their own outfit. Their special, so let that special shine.
- Family matching.
As much as this pains me (Like seriously WTF) if Ryder wants to match, we’re all going to match. Even if I want to stab my left eye with a pencil.
Halloween doesn’t have to be a challenge. Sure, the costume may end up being a pink tutu and a fleece jacket with the Boston Bruins logo, but the point of trick-or-treating isn’t impressing the neighbourhood with the Peter Pan costume you hand-made for your 4-year-old. It’s about the fun you’re creating your child, ASD or neuro-typical.
I get all the Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups.